Bicara Poligami… (2)

Penulis ingin menyatakan pandangan tentang isu poligami yang dibenarkan di dalam Islam. Apabila penulis membaca akhbar-akhbar tempatan (Malaysia), menonton TV, perbualan di kedai-kedai kopi, apa yang penulis dapat lihat ialah isu ini menjadi suatu topik kegemaran segolongan lelaki peringkat umur 35 tahun ke atas.  Penulis tidak pasti kenapa golongan lelaki 35 tahun ke atas ini berminat untuk membicarakan isu ini. Mungkin kematangan mereka di dalam mengharungi alam perkahwinan; kebanyakan lelaki berkahwin ketika berumur 25-26 tahun, jadi setelah berkahwin selama 9-10 tahun mereka boleh memahami hakikat peri pentingnya poligami di dalam kehidupan mereka yang mendatang.

Bercakap tentang isu poligami atau ta’addud al-zaujah penulis berkata:

Apa sahaja yang diturunkan oleh Allah Taala di dalam Al-Quran mengandungi hikmah yang besar bagi kehidupan manusia secara keseluruhannya. Manusia diciptakan oleh Allah Taala terdiri dari lelaki dan wanita. Masing-masing, lelaki dan wanita tadi, mempunyai karakter, sifat, naluri yang ada yang sama dan ada yang berbeza. Itu adalah menunjukkan kebijaksanaan Allah Taala di dalam apa yang dicipta olehNya. Kita berasal dari Nabi Adam. Nabi Adam berkahwin dengan Hawa dan manusia bertambah ramai sehinggalah sekarang ini. Hikmah diizinkan poligami di dalam Islam ialah dengan ramainya ummat Nabi Muhammad yang mengikuti ajarannya di hari kiamat kelak. Sekiranya ummat Islam tidak mengamalkan poligami bermakna kuranglah ummat Islam.

Apa yang membimbangkan penulis sekarang ialah ramainya di kalangan ummat Islam sendiri yang telah menyatakan ketidakpuasan hati mereka terhadap pensyariatan poligami ini. Penulis tersangat bimbang kerana setengah-setengah mereka yang menyatakan ketidakpuasan dan ketidakselesaan terhadap pensyariatan poligami adalah di kalangan yang terpelajar atau mempunyai pendidikan Islam. Ini kerana ianya adalah sesuatu yang sangat berlawanan dengan apa yang mereka perjuangkan. Mereka mahu menegakkan Islam di muka bumi tetapi sebahagian dari syariat hendak diabaikan seperti pensyariatan poligami yang kita sedang bincangkan sekarang. Aneh, sungguh aneh mereka mahu meninggikan agama Islam tapi bila ada sesuatu yang tidak disenangi hati mereka (seperti pensyariatan poligami) lantas mereka mengenepikannya. Perlu diingat apa yang Allah Taala suruh itu ialah apa yang tidak disenangi oleh hawa nafsu dan apa yang dilarang itu adalah apa yang disenangi oleh hawa nafsu. Sama-samalah kita fikir-fikirkan bersama. Kita sedang berada di tahap mana.

Bagi penulis, sesuatu yang sangat rugi sekiranya kita telah banyak berkorban untuk agama Islam dengan mencurahkan wang ringgit, tenaga dan masa kita untuk menegakkan agama Islam di muka bumi ini tetapi kerana pensyariatan poligami kita tidak boleh menerimanya di dalam kehidupan kita. Rugi. Sangat rugi.

Satu perkara lagi ialah beratnya sikap ummat Islam untuk mencontohi para sahabat Rasulullah SAW. Majoriti di kalangan sahabat Rasulullah SAW mengamalkan poligami di dalam kehidupan mereka dan mereka sebagaimana yang kita ketahui adalah generasi yang hebat dari segi penghayatan Islam. Penulis yakin wanita-wanita pada masa itu menerima pensyariatan poligami ini dengan penuh redha dan kerelaan kerana itu datangnya dari syariat Islam.

Apa yang menjadi permasalahan sekarang ialah ada wanita-wanita di zaman sekarang sudah banyak dipengaruhi oleh ideologi dan pemikiran barat. Mereka menolak pensyariatan poligami sebagaimana yang ditolak oleh pemikiran barat. Pemikiran barat mengatakan pensyariatan poligami tidak mengiktiraf hak kesaksamaan gender – dalam erti kata lain dalam Islam dibenarkan lelaki berkahwin sehingga empat tetapi perempuan dibenarkan berkahwin seorang sahaja. Sebenarnya isu yang dimainkan oleh pemikir barat ini banyak dipengaruhi oleh desakan nafsu semata-mata. Mereka sebenarnya tidak suka institusi perkahwinan Islam diikuti, apa yang dipraktikkan oleh mereka hanyalah bersekedudukan, zina, lesbian, homoseks, biseksual dan penulis tegaskan sekali lagi kehidupan yang mereka lalui sekarang adalah menolak kehidupan beragama dan mengamalkan kehidupan seks bebas. Adakah kita sebagai seorang yang mengaku beriman kepada Allah Taala dan Nabi Muhammad SAW sebagai nabi dan ikutan kita mahu menerima pendapat mereka (pemikir barat) yang telah jauh dari norma-norma hidup seorang manusia? Adakah kita yang Al-Quran dan Sunnah ada di hadapan kita sekarang mahu menerima pendapat mereka yang semata-mata mengikut hawa nafsu dan mahu mengajak kita ke neraka? Nau’dzubillahi min dzaalik. Penulis yakin bahawa pemikir barat sekarang sudah boleh duduk bergoyang kaki kerana usaha-usaha mereka untuk menghapuskan pensyariatan poligami telah diambilalih oleh setengah-setengah orang Islam sendiri. Ingatlah bahawa pemikir barat tidak akan menghapuskan Islam secara keseluruhannya kerana mereka tahu sekiranya Islam ditentang secara terang-terangan ummat Islam akan bangkit dengan segera menentang mereka. Jadi mereka merosakkan agama Islam secara perlahan-lahan seperti isu poligami ini supaya niat mereka hendak merosakkan Islam tidak disedari oleh ummat Islam. Lebih-lebih lagi isu poligami melibatkan kaum wanita di mana mereka membayangkan yang isu poligami lebih menguntungkan orang lelaki berbanding kaum wanita. Ianya seolah-olah diperlakukan secara tidak adil. Wahai saudariku seIslam, Allah Taala adalah Maha Mengetahui akan apa yang telah ditetapkan di dalam Al-Quran dengan menyatakan adil sebagai syarat poligami.

Penulis menyeru kepada mereka-mereka yang menolak, yang kurang yakin, yang menghalang, yang mengwar-warkan keburukan pensyariatan poligami kembalilah…kembalilah menjadi seorang Muslim yang menerima, yang yakin, yang memperjuangkan, yang mengwar-warkan kebaikan pensyariatan poligami kepada masyarakat kerana itu adalah tanggungjawab kita semua sebagai seorang Muslim/Muslimah iaitu memberi penerangan tentang agama Islam yang sebenar.

Penulis akhiri dengan segala yang baik itu datangnya dari taufiq dan hidayah Allah Taala dan yang buruk itu datangnya dari kelemahan/kesalahan penulis sendiri.

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Women, Polygamy and Islam

It has been considered for years that Islam does not give equal rights to men and women, and consider women only subject of comfort for males. This opinion has been delivered time and time again by renowned women activists but their basis of arguments being only the alleged facts. Their main argument is against the permission given towards polygamy in Islam. But many scholars who have gone through the pain in studying what Islam actually says have different opinion. They agree, in general, that Islam’s approach to polygamy is most balanced and rational and is based on the moral, psychological and physiological demands of men and women (The Independent 13).

It should be remembered that taking more than one wife is only permissible, not ordained by the Quran – as some ‘progressive’ activist would like to believe. The Quranic verse that allows polygamy should be read in the context it was revealed. The Verse says, “And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then marry such women as seem good to you, two, three and four, but if you fear that you may not do justice to them, then (marry) only one” (4: 3). This verse was revealed after the battle of Uhud. In that battle, many Muslim men died and as such a great social problem for the protection of widows and orphans arose, necessitating an institutionalized polygamy for a convenient solution of the problem.

Some of the eminent Western scholars who actually studied Islam, quite blatantly criticized the Western and other self proclaimed writers for venting their opinion as facts. In her book The Life and Teachings of Muhammed, Dr. Annie Besant, the renowned English leader of Theosophical Movement, says: ” There is pretended monogamy in the West, but in reality, there is polygamy without responsibility; the mistress is cast off when the man is weary of her … the first lover has no responsibility for her future, and she is a hundred times worst off then the sheltered wife in a polygamous home. “When we see thousands of miserable women who crowd the streets of Western towns during the night, we must surely feel that it does not lie in the Western mouth to reproach Islam for polygamy. It is better for woman, happier for woman, more respectable for woman to live in polygamy, united to one man, only with a legitimate child in her arms and surrounded with respect, than to be seduced and then cast out into the streets perhaps with illegitimate child outside the rule of law, uncared, unsheltered, to become victim of any passer-by, night after night, rendered incapable of motherhood despised by all. “You can find others,” continues Annie Besant, “stating that religion Islam is evil because it sanctions a limited polygamy. But you do not hear as a rule the criticism … that monogamy with a blended mass of prostitution was a hypocrisy and more degrading than a limited polygamy. “… it must be remembered that the law of Islam in relation to women was until lately, when parts of it was imitated initiated in England, the most just law, as far as women are concerned, to be found in the world. Dealing with property, …rights of succession,… cases of divorce, it was far beyond the law of the West, in the respect which was paid to the rights of women. Those things are forgotten while people are hypnotized by the words monogamy and polygamy and do not look at what lies behind it in the West – the frightful degradation of women…”

Divorce in Islam

The next point of confrontation regarding women is the issue of divorce. It is a well accepted thought that Islam allows the husband to get rid of his wife on his free will, any time he likes by uttering a particular word three times repeatedly. This idea is totally baseless and has got nothing to do with Islam is quite clear when one takes the pain of studying it. first of all, the marriage in Islam is a social contract, and it can be dissolved if it proves, in any way, injurious or incompatible to the wife or to the husband. The wife has been given as much right to obtain the divorce as the husband. But the process of divorce has been set with a time limit of three months, so that a major decision like this is not taken in a moment of anger, and then both of them reproaches it after their anger vents out. This has been clearly instructed in the Holy Quran, but made unnecessarily confused by some elite class to suite their own purpose. On the Timing of divorce: ” O Prophet! if ye do divorce woman, divorce them at their prescribed periods, and count (accurately) their prescribed periods: And fear Allah, your Lord: And turn them not out of your houses, nor shall they (themselves) leave, except in case they are guilty of open lewdness ” (LXV: 1). On waiting periods for divorced women: ” Divorced woman must wait three monthly courses. And it is not lawful for them to hide what Allah has created in their wombs, if they sincerely believe in Allah and the last day…” (2:228) Thus a clear three months period is mandatory before the final pronouncement is to be given. Each pronouncement of Talaq has to be made with a month’s increment between it, so that their is chance that the couple repents and decide to continue their life together. After all, the prophet’s saying goes ‘Divorce is most disliked by Allah among all permissible things.’ As women have got full rights to decide on to their separations, they also have full rights to chose partners in marriage, which is against what the ‘learned’ class would like to believe. No marriage in Islam is valid unless the bride and the bride-groom give their verbal consents regarding their marriage.

Status of Women in Islam

The status given to the women by Islam is another point of conflict as most of the “literate lots” would very much like to believe that women in Islam are still unliberated. However, it would be pointless to defend Islam by saying that Islam did give Women full equality in all respect to men (as some scholars defending Islam tried to do), as in reality, Islam does recognize the fact that women and men have their differences on the basis of their physical and physiological aspects, which is clearly stated in the Holy Quran in the following verses: “… Wives have the same rights as the husbands have on them in accordance with the generally known principles. Ofcourse, men are a degree above them in status, and above all is Allah, the All-Mighty, the All-Wise” (2: 228). “Men are in charge of women because Allah has made the one superior to the other and because men spend their wealth on women” (4: 34).

Thus, in Islam, men and women have absolute equality in stature, but with a complete difference in labor. Being subjected to the responsibility of taking care of the house-holds, is considered somewhat degrading nowadays, forwarding the possible idea that Islam has kept women away from nation building. But if we are to consider Napoleon’s saying that ‘Give me a good mother; I will give you a good nation’, then we can see that in reality nation building starts at home, and failure to learn correct guidance at home would lead the generations to degrade, without even being concerned over it. In fact the Islamic concept of household is that it is the smallest unit in the greater organization of the Nation as a whole. The home is a little kingdom where authority is exercised by both husband and wife.

Source: http://members.tripod.com/islamiczone/women.htm

Bicara Poligami…

Satu persoalan kenapa penulis membentangkan isu poligami di dalam blog ini. Keadaan semasa dan persepsi seseorang melihat isu poligami itu menyebabkan penulis membicarakannya di sini dengan petikan-petikan dari buku-buku ulama’-ulama’ yang boleh dipercayai seperti Dr Yusof Al-Qaradawi dan lain-lain lagi. Ada beberapa perkara penting yang hendak disentuh di bawah ini seperti berikut :-
1. Sebagai seorang Muslim/Muslimah yang taat dan patuh kepada ajaran Islam yang sebenar, kita hendaklah melihat, mengkaji, merenung isu ini dengan fikiran yang terbuka dan penuh rasional iaitu cuba menilainya dengan hikmah atau kebijaksanaan akal yang dikurniakan oleh Allah Taala bukan dengan perasaan yang penuh dengan emosi dan pengaruh negatif dari media massa. Apabila kita melihat sesuatu perkara itu sebagai negatif maka sukar bagi pemikiran kita untuk menilai sesuatu itu dengan perasaan yang waras. Perlu direnungkan kepentingan manusia keseluruhannya di dalam menangani sesuatu perkara.

2. Al-Quran yang kita membacanya setiap hari adalah menjadi panduan hidup atau “a way of life” juga menjadi bahan rujukan kepada kita ke arah jalan yang betul (hidup yang terpandu). Allah menurunkan Al-Quran kepada ummat Islam ialah supaya dihayati dan dipraktikkan di dalam kehidupan sehari-hari. Al-Quran bukan sekadar dibaca malah lebih dari itu, untuk dijadikan sebagai petunjuk kepada orang-orang yang beriman kepada Allah Taala. Di bulan Ramadhan ini kita digalakkan membaca Al-Quran dan diberi pahala yang berlipat ganda. Cuma satu langkah lagi yang perlu dilakukan iaitu memahami isi kandungannya dan mempraktikkannya di dalam kehidupan individu, keluarga, masyarakat dan seterusnya.

3. Orang yang beriman kepada Allah, menyempurnakan perintah rukun Islam seperti solat 5 waktu, berpuasa di bulan Ramadhan, menunaikan zakat, mengerjakan fardhu haji jika mampu dan ibadat-ibadat yang lain samada yang wajib atau sunat melakukan ibadat-ibadat tersebut kerana mereka mentaati ajaran Islam yang mulia. Orang-orang yang beriman juga meninggalkan perkara-perkara yang dilarang oleh Islam dengan penuh rasa ketaatan kepada Rabb alam semesta.

4. Orang-orang yang beriman mengenal Allah sebagai Tuhan yang Maha Berkuasa ke atas semua makhlukNya. Dia juga yang mengatur hidup manusia di dunia ini, maknanya Dia membuat peraturan-peraturan supaya manusia patuh kepada peraturan-peraturanNya. Kita tidak boleh mengubah ibadat seperti solat, puasa, zakat, haji, menutup aurat dan sebagainya Dia berkehendakkan begitu. Ada perkara-perkara yang tidak disebut di dalam Al-Quran atau Hadis di mana perkara-perkara tersebut hendaklah diputuskan oleh ulama’-ulama’ yang boleh dipercayai dan berilmu. Keputusan mereka mestilah tidak bercanggah dengan peraturan-peraturan yang telah ditetapkan (yang tidak berubah). Ulama’-ulama’ adalah orang-orang yang pakar di dalam bidang masing-masing.

5. Kita mesti ingat musuh-musuh Islam seperti orientalis & misionari bertungkus-lumus siang dan malam 24 jam sehari untuk memesongkan kefahaman orang-orang Islam dan mengikuti agama mereka terutama di dalam bab poligami dan perceraian (talak). Mereka mengatakan poligami hanya diberikan kepada orang lelaki sahaja dan hak bercerai di beri kepada orang lelaki (kuasa talak diberi kepada suami). Itulah modal mereka supaya ummat Islam terpengaruh dan keyakinan ummat Islam terhadap agama Islam menjadi luntur. Na’uzubillahi min zaalik.

https://milkyway27.wordpress.com/2007/12/06/polygamy-part-1/

Kita tidak boleh memandang ringan akan perkara ini kerana mereka menggunakan logik akal mereka semata-mata dan kita, umat Islam, berpandukan wahyu. Kita tidak boleh terjerebak dengan daya tarikan, kata-kata manis yang mereka hamburkan, janji-janji manis, dan pujuk-rayu mereka supaya kita mengikuti jejak langkah mereka yang membawa kepada neraka wa na’uzubillah. Mereka menggunakan berbagai-bagai terminologi untuk mempengaruhi ummat Islam supaya jauh dari ajaran Islam yang sebenar seperti “hapuskan poligami kerana poligami menafikan hak kesaksamaan gender”, “hak asasi wanita terabai dengan poligami”, “poligami tidak sesuai di zaman sekarang”. “poligami sudah menjadi isu lapuk”, “lelaki dibenarkan beristeri empat, kenapa perempuan tidak boleh bersuami empat” dan banyak lagi kata-kata yang sebenarnya jika difikirkan adalah menunjukkan kelemahan dari segi kefahaman terhadap agama Islam itu sendiri. Itulah yang boleh dilakukan oleh orientalis dan misionari untuk menarik ummat Islam terutamanya kaum wanita/muslimah yang mana mereka mudah terpedaya dengan pujuk-rayu golongan orientalis/misionari yang setiap hari bekerja untuk meruntuhkan Islam. Kenapa pendapat mereka yang hendak diikuti? Manakah pendapat yang lebih baik; oreintalis/misionari atau ulama’-ulama’ Islam yang muktabar?

6. Di dalam Al-Quran dengan jelas Allah berfirman orang lelaki Muslim boleh berkahwin dengan wanita samada 2, 3, atau 4 jika boleh berlaku adil. Sekiranya tidak boleh berlaku adil maka kahwin satu isteri sahaja. Ya, sekiranya boleh berlaku adil iaitu di dalam pemberian nafkah zahir dan batin dan di dalam giliran malam.

https://milkyway27.wordpress.com/2008/03/17/polygamy-why-is-it-permitted-in-islam/

Tetapi di dalam perasaan kasih & sayang terhadap isteri-isteri adalah mengikut kemampuan suami itu sendiri kerana perasaan kasih & sayang kepada isteri-isteri itu adalah di luar bidang kuasa si suami (Allah yang menjadikan perasaan kasih & sayang di dalam hati seseorang itu kepada seseorang yang lain – di luar bidang kuasa manusia). Tetapi suami tidak boleh meninggalkan isteri yang kurang disayangi itu terkatung-katung tanpa penjagaan darinya. Maknanya semua isteri-isteri mendapat hak-hak mereka yang sama sebagai seorang isteri tidak kira samada isteri pertama atau isteri kedua atau isteri ketiga atau isteri keempat.

https://milkyway27.wordpress.com/2007/11/30/penjelasan-surah-al-nisaa-ayat-129-keadilan-di-dalam-berpoligami/

Suami hendaklah menunaikan hak-hak isteri dengan adil. Jadi di sini penting dijelaskan yang keperluan harian, makan-minum, rumah itu tidak semestinya yang mahal-mahal belaka kerana itu bergantung kepada kemampuan si suami. Adil juga bukan bermakna sama jumlahnya contoh isteri pertama ada 3 org anak, isteri kedua ada 2 orang anak maka perbelanjaan untuk isteri yang pertama adalah lebih daripada isteri yang kedua kerana tanggungannya adalah lebih ramai. Adil mengikut keperluan masing-masing.

7. Masalah dengan pengaruh negatif dari media massa sekarang ialah terlalu banyaknya cerita-cerita yang direka dan ditayangkan yang menggambarkan bahawa kehidupan berpoligami itu penuh dengan pelbagai masalah. Ini sedikit sebanyak akan mempengaruhi segelintir masyarakat terutama kaum hawa (sorry to say) untuk mempercayai dan meyakini yang ada sesuatu yang tidak kena dengan sistem poligami. Sistem poligami ini siapa yang membenarkannya atau siapa yang meluluskannya. Bukankah Allah yg membenarkannya? Sanggupkan kita mengatakan yang sistem ini tidak elok, tidak baik, lapuk ditelan dek zaman dan patut dihentikan atau diketatkan saja pelaksanaannya supaya tidak ramai yg boleh mengamalkannya? Wa na’uzubillahi min zaalik. Kita jawab sendiri, tanya hati nurani kita. Macamana di akhirat nanti bila kita berhadapan dengan Allah Taala iaitu Pencipta manusia dan alam semesta serta Pencipta kepada sistem-sistem Islam (manhaj) termasuk sistem poligami untuk kebaikan hidup manusia semasa di muka bumi ini dan untuk kebaikan alam sekitar di padang Mahsyar kelak? Macamana kita hendak menjawabnya? Apakah alasan kita di hadapan Allah Taala? Para sahabat Rasulullah mereka adalah contoh ikutan terbaik kepada kita dan kebanyakan mereka mengamalkan poligami ini (Dr. Yusof Al-Qardawi). Masalah kepada ummat Islam sekarang ialah tidak mahu belajar memahami Islam yang asal sebagaimana yang diturunkan kepada Nabi Muhammad S.A.W.

8. Bila bercakap tentang poligami bukanlah bererti semua lelaki Muslim akan berkahwin 2, 3, atau 4. Penulis tegaskan sekali lagi, bukan semua. Kerana ini adalah suatu pilihan dan bergantung kepada syarat seseorang itu boleh berlaku adil atau tidak. Perkahwinan ke-2, 3, atau 4 adalah sama juga seperti perkahwinan yang pertama. Minta persetujuan perempuan yang hendak dikahwini itu tetapi tidak semestinya meminta izin kepada isteri yang pertama (atau isteri-isteri yang sedia ada kerana ini bukanlah menjadi syarat), ada wali, saksi dan sebagainya. Sekiranya si perempuan yang hendak dikahwini itu (samada janda atau anak dara) tidak bersetuju atau tidak mahu berkahwin dengan lelaki itu maka tidak berlakulah perkahwinan tersebut.

9. Poligami adalah salah satu syariat di antara syariat-syariat yang terdapat di dalam Islam dan ianya adalah sesuatu yang tetap.

https://milkyway27.wordpress.com/2008/05/22/hentikan-poligami-pbb/

https://milkyway27.wordpress.com/2007/12/08/polygamy-pt-8/

https://milkyway27.wordpress.com/2007/12/12/polygamy-pt-9/

https://milkyway27.wordpress.com/2007/12/12/polygamy-pt-10/

https://milkyway27.wordpress.com/2007/12/12/polygamy-pt-11-end/

Segala kebaikan adalah datangnya dari taufiq dan hidayah Allah dan jika ada kesilapan adalah datangnya daripada kelemahan dan kesilapan penulis sendiri. Semoga kita semua diberi kefahaman Islam yang sebenar dan menjadikan hati-hati kita mudah menerima kandungan-kandungan ajaran-ajaran Islam yang suci ini dan menjadi bekalan kepada kita di dalam mengharungi hidup di dunia ini. Semoga iman kita bertambah di bulan Ramadhan ini dan bulan-bulan yang seterusnya sehingga kita dipanggil pulang oleh Allah.

QUOTATIONS ABOUT POLYGAMY – 6 (END)

A line of demarcation has to be drawn between instituting a principle and misusing it. In as far as the role of legislation in rectifying our society and remedying its ailments is concerned‑ in terms of an imperative need to mete out justice by a polygamist ‑ let researchers be primarily occupied with adjusting the yardstick, as well as the manifestations, of justice if they so desire. Any attempt at undermining and deriding polygamy in principle is doomed as being of no avail. I can even rightfully claim that contemptuously regarding polygamy has been an immediate fallout of a sort of new Crusade against Muslim nations. 

 

Several social classes now do regard polygamy as something evil, while they consider adultery and fornication insignificant entertainment! The problem has come to relate to understanding and acknowledging the entire religion.

 

Against such a background, to attempt restricting polygamy is to repulsively attempt to soil the entire society in the name of law and at the expense of Islam.

 

Many a prophet and good worshipping man had more than one wife and the practice was not believed to impinge upon his piety or fearing Allah. Books of the Old Testament stand witness thereof.

 

Islam does not regard abstaining from marriage a sort of worshipping, as monks do, nor does it consider keeping four wives a sin, as Christianity is falsely claimed to have branded. (As we have seen before, none of the four gospels forbids polygamy: the author Hamdi Shafeek).

 

To sin is really to give a free rein to sexual desire, or to inhibit it, letting it trickle down as underground water trickles down under the desert.[1][4]

 

[1] “Stolen Moments”, a book by Anees Mansour, Daru‑shruk edition. 

[2] “History and Goals of Orientalism”, published by “Al‑Nahda” bookshop.

[3] “Al‑Musfirnoun” newspaper of 6 June 1997.

[4] Fiqh AI‑Sira”, (Understanding the Prophet’s Biography), by Sheikh 

 


 

QUOTATIONS ABOUT POLYGAMY – 5

In spite of all those reasons pleaded as warranting polygamy, Islam has adamantly forbidden that polygamy be intended for giving vent to some men’s sexual lust and a slant for physical pleasure and domination. 

 

 

A gain should correspondingly be met by a loss; easier access to sensual pleasure should be ensued by burdening duties. 

 

 

Hence, when embarking upon polygamy justice has to be assuredly and safeguardedly meted out. If a husband fears doing injustice to himself, children or wives, polygamy is thus forbidden. A polygamist should be able to provide for the necessary expenses. If the lawgiver, in which case it is Allah who has given out Shari’aa, regards inability to provide for expenses as an excuse not to marry an even one lady, such inability would rather prohibit a man to marry more than one.

 

 

The lawgiver enjoins fasting on unmarried youth so long as they cannot marry , thus ordering a man whom is unable even to have one wife and be sexually abstinent. Allah thus says in the surah of “Al‑Nour” (Light), “Let those who do not find the wherewithal for marriage keep themselves sexually abstinent until Allah gives them means out of His grace”. 

 

 

What about a man who has only one wife? He would rather be patient and had better be sexually abstinent; the more wives a husband keeps, the more children he is likely to have. Islam enjoins father to deal with children on an equal footing in terms of upbringing, education, honoring and loving as well as means of living however divergent their mothers may be. A father with many children should then be cautious enough not to be capricious when handling his children born to diverse mothers; as a husband a man should imperatively administer justice to his wives. 

 

 

However, if a heart inclination is too stubborn to be controlled, every husband can fully observe the rules and guidelines in question, rightfully weigh his behavior and to fear Allah in whatever Allah has made him guardian of in terms of a wide spectrum of deeds and circumstances.

 

 

These are the broader confines of justice as attached by Allah to polygamy. He who can fully fulfill such limits may get married to two, three or even four wives; otherwise, he has to suffice himself with only one wife, in response to what Allah says:, “If you fear injustice, then keep only one wife”. 

 

 

I have seen some journalists objecting to polygamy as licensed by Islam and wondering if a man is empowered to have as many as four wives, why is a woman not allowed to have as many husbands as four?

 

 

Having thoroughly looked at those wondering journalists, I have found them out mostly lewd, cuckolds or pimps. To my own much surprise, they are leading a life bristling with adultery, aversing most to create a chaste family. 

 

To answer this invalid question, I have to clearly state that the ultimate goal of sexual relationship is to create a family and rear children in a climate of clean custody. This cannot ever be achieved in a home where a lot of people frequent, and fight to grab, a woman whose prospective offspring cannot be identified as having descended from any of them. In addition, a woman’s sexual role is that of a receiver, rather than a doer of the action, of the one being led and carried, rather than of the leader, carrier. One can visualize a locomotive pulling four carriages, rather than a carriage pulling four locomotives. Men are disposed by nature to maintain and sustain women, and to dismiss this fact as allegedly untrue is colliding with the natural course of things. 

 

 

When some of the commons, verily unfortunately, unheed these confines attached to polygamy and go keeping as many wives as four without realizing the sense of justice they are enjoined to administer ‑ but rather to answer the call of lust ‑ only gross slanting and inequality will be the result. 

 

 

Although a man cannot even provide for himself, he is in pursuit of another marriage; whereas he is unable to be in charge of only one wife, he goes seeking another. A polygamist may not be dealing equally, rather capriciously, with his children in terms of education and portioning out wealth; he may take another wife only to desert the first one and leave her as if hanging in the air. 

 

 

Conversely, although a man may be wealthy enough to marry four women at one and the same time and to provide for whomever children they beget him, he leads a life of sexual begging ad rolling in the bosoms of trollops. 

 

 

Does forbidding polygamy cure a nation’s evils as such? No. To forbid what is permitted is not anything that will be a dilemma in the eye of Islamic legislation. However, if religion had remained silent about its position on polygamy, we would, rather, have made our say on it by clarifying that it is permitted to preserve public interest as above explained. 

 

to be continued…

 

QUOTATIONS ABOUT POLYGAMY – 4

Late Sheikh Muhammad el‑Ghazali giving his Opinion:

 

Steady urban and economic laws inevitably govern life, whether they be known in which case they will be cautioned against ‑ or unwittingly handled, with their impact, still, spontaneously unfolding itself.

 

 It is social circumstances, which govern how many women an individual man should have a relation with. To overlook such social circumstances is to resist fait accompli to no avail, as the ratio of men to women can either be equal on both sides or tilting in favor of one side against the other.

 

 

 If the men‑to‑women ratio is equal or when men do outnumber women, polygamy has to spontaneously fall out of practice, with every man contenting himself with the woman coercively portioned out to him.

 

 

 If women do outnumber men, only one course of action has to be opted for out of the three following options: 

 

 

(1)   to judge that some women be deprived for life of having their sexual needs met;

 

 

(2)   to permit keeping mistresses, with adultery acknowledged as thus legitimate;

 

 

(3)   or to allow polygamy. 

 

 

A woman is widely believed even before a man ‑ to desist from either deprivation or a disobediently sinful bed. With the situation as such, she has to share another wife’s husband, from whom her would‑be children will have a lineal descent, resulting in polygamy ‑ as stipulated by Islam ‑ being inevitably acknowledged. 

 

 

Moreover, men do diverge widely in term of sexual desire: some men are so healthy, strong in erotica sentiments and leading a luxurious life while other men are not. To deal on a par with both a sexually‑rigid man from his earlier periods of adolescence and another who is so sexually energetic that he can be easily excited is a matter which widely misses the mark of justice. 

 

 

Are gluttons not allowed to have more amounts of food than allowed for people with less appetite? So, why not sexual‑wise? It is the same token working here. 

 

 

There is another wise reason for allowing polygamy: a wife may be so feeble, diseased, infertile or old‑aged that she cannot any longer satisfy her husband’s sexual needs, so why should she be so helplessly let down to be victimized by these excuses? 

 

 

Good company has to be retained by a husband, who is then fully empowered to bring in another wife, or other wives, who can fully perform a wife’s role. 

 

 

to be continued…

 

QUOTATIONS ABOUT POLYGAMY – 3

Dr. Nadia Hashem goes on to expound her viewpoint by saying that a husband has perfect right to marry another wife, or other wives, whether his first wife consents or not. This is because it is a husband who is in command of a marriage contract; in a capacity as such, he is empowered to dispose at will, on condition that a wife has not attached, when writing out the marriage certificate, a condition that her husband should not take another wife, or other wives, in addition to her.

 

Dr. Nadia Hashem further clarifies that women in Muslim societies do not acknowledge polygamy any more: whether they be educated or not, wealthy or poor, urban or rural, as well as religious or not. Corrupt common practices ‑ deeply sending out roots ‑ religious un-enlightenment, dominating Western precepts are gravely implicated for Muslim women’s rejection of polygamy. Our society unduly upholds a common practice of turning down polygamy as inequality being done to first wives. However, Shari’aa stresses as corrupt and invalid any practice which runs on a collision course with religion. Having only scarce knowledge of religion sends a woman averting from polygamy. If she had been an utterly Muslim woman, she would have assuredly realized that she cannot, nor does she have any right to, head off a second, third or even fourth marriage by her husband, so long as her husband fulfills her own rights. Unfortunately, women’s education, domination of secular precepts and the so‑termed emancipation of women have all been seriously fallaciously instilling ‑ throughout long decades ‑ into women’s minds that polygamy holds women in low esteem.[1][3]

 to be continued…


QUOTATIONS ABOUT POLYGAMY – 2

Dr. Fathiyya Al‑Nabarawi, a professor at Al‑Azhar University Faculty of Islamic Studies, says, “A Muslim woman rejects or hates polygamy only when she is ill‑educated and weak in faith. During the prophet’s, peace be upon him, era, Muslim women did not object to polygamy, although women are naturally known to be averse to polygamy; even the prophet’s, peace be upon him, wives were known to be jealous of each other.

 

However, the situation stabilized and society acknowledged polygamy as licensed by religion which has been sent down from Allah. A woman cannot object to polygamy as long as her husband is so financially secure that he can provide for her and his children by her; she can not object either, so long as her husband will assuredly mete out justice to, and protect, her and his children by her as against the new wife.

 

Is not it better that such a marriage be permitted and made public, or should men be denied access to such a marriage while granted unrestricted access to the then imperative course of action involving sin? A polygamist husband should then be held in high esteem on the grounds that he is a Muslim typically fearful of Allah.

 

Nevertheless, I find fault with a lot of men who, having got a second wife, keep a second marriage secret although they have got legally married. They obviously feel awkward to make this marriage public because children are brought up to regard a second wife as a catastrophe, with media fallaciously striking the same note and imported Western patterns of thought rife”.

 

Dr. Fathiyya Nabarawi goes on to say further, “I have known some colleagues who have, from the very beginning, accepted being second wives. However, since marriages were consummated, they have been attempting to grab husbands only for themselves and to send them abandoning their first wives ‑ one of those wives has even requested her husband to divorce his first wife. Is that logical? Does such a behavior stand to reason?

 

Our society has been undergoing a multitude of blurry, fallacious precepts which make themselves most manifest in terms of an issue like polygamy, but they do exist ‑ though to a lesser degree ‑ in a lot more areas of our lives”.

 

Another woman professor of fiqh (Islamic jurisprudence), Dr. Nadia Hashem, airs her viewpoint as follows, ” In terms of Shari’aa, what does the verse (Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four) exactly mean? Does the verse signal general and absolute permissiveness, or rather, permissiveness qualified by certain curbs attached by Shari’aa?

 

Whereas some jurists have said that the verse signals absolute permissiveness, regardless of necessity or not, some other jurists have interpreted the verse as signaling only qualified permissiveness.

 

However, I advocate the latter team of jurists who believe the verse as. having permitted polygamy only qualifiedly.

 

Of the reasons I deem warranting taking a second wife, or more, are an ill or infertile wife, a husband who is so excessively potent that he fails to content himself with only one wife, or simply females outnumbering males in society.

 

There are estimated thirteen million unmarried girls ‑at, or well above, the age of marriage ‑ in Egypt, with girls above thirty years of age accounting for four millions girls.

 

In my own opinion, a necessity arises for polygamy against a background as such: if we do not resort to polygamy under these circumstances, a half of society’s girls will remain bachelor girls unable to be sexually abstinent”.

 

to be continued…

 

QUOTATIONS ABOUT POLYGAMY

The late Grand Sheikh of Al‑Azhar, Sheikh Mahmoud Shaltout, called on young gentlemen, so capable, to marry more than one woman.

 

During the era when Sheikh Shaltout was the Grand Sheikh of Al‑Azhar, nubile female’s threefold outnumbered males who were capable of getting married.

 

Therefore, Sheikh Shaltout deemed that every such young‑man should aptly marry three girls in a bid to stem, once and for all, the problem of having so many bachelor girls. Consequently, the Sheikh’s righteous comments sparked off a huge furore at the time, with Western‑minded people having agitatingly attacked the revered scholar. Nevertheless, he ventured out the storm like a firm mountain, never bowing to it as others are doing these days!!

 

Asked by a world TV station announcer about what he thought about polygamy, veteran Egyptian writer Anees Mansour said, “If I am in favor of a person’s right to give birth to as many children as he wishes, it does not matter then whether they be born to the same mother or not ‑ it is up to the father to freely decide”. In reply to another question by the same announcer whether he remains committed to trite, worn‑out principles, rather than keeping abreast of a rapidly‑changing world which does not any longer back a multitude of children as generated by polygamy (referring, of course, to the non‑Muslim world), Mansour said, “You have said that you are making your question personally, and this is my personal opinion. More candidly speaking, I am grateful to the lack of birth control for my presence, as I am the ninth among eleven children. I am not in favor of contenting oneself with only one wife, as I was born to the second wife of my father who kept two wives at a time. And I support freedom of choice”.[1][1]

 

 Dr. Ahmed Shalaby, a professor of civilization and Islamic history at the Cairo University Arabic‑Language Faculty, says, “Orientalists have agitatedly been making an outcry that polygamy ‑ as licensed by Islam ‑ is not acceptable. However, why should we use them as our yardstick?! It is exactly the West, which permitted mistresses, with million illegitimate children ensuing.

 

Undoubtedly, polygamy is more sublime and chaste than having concubines. A mistress has no access to rights, nor does her children. Polygamy is more largely to women’s advantage, rather than to their detriment.”[2][2]     They even can forestall polygamy if they commonly consent that none of them should marry a married man. Nevertheless, they so do to satisfy a need, instead of remaining bachelor girls”.

 

to be continued…

 

 

 


Slandering a Muslim Woman

Question and Answer Details

Name of Questioner

Unknown   – Bahamas

 

Title

Slandering a Muslim Woman

 

Date

24/Jan/2005

 

Question

As-salamu `alaykum.
I just wanted to ask what the Qur’an says about the slandering of innocent women in public and in private. I am fully aware that this is a grave offense to attack the honor and dignity of a Muslim and that in the sight of God it is an abhorrent act, but these days we are living in a society of ignorance where honor and blood are valueless.
What happens to a person who accuses a chaste woman of fornication and other illicit acts without providing the four witnesses as prescribed in Surat An-Nur? What makes people press false charges against good women when they know that these women would never commit such acts? How can a good Muslim person protect herself and other innocent victims of the same ordeal?

I hope you can help me find the right answers to all of my question. May Allah bless you for this service.

 

 

 

Topic

Other, Women’s life

 

Name of Counselor

Jasser Auda

Answer

As-salamu `alaykum dear friend.
Thank you for your question.
The verses you are referring to from Surat An-Nur (24) mean:

*{And those who launch a charge against chaste [honorable] women, and produce not four witnesses [to support their allegations],- flog them with eighty stripes; and reject their evidence ever after: for such men are wicked transgressors [evil-doers].}* (An-Nur 24:4)

These verses were revealed when some hypocrites accused the Mother of the Believers `A’ishah, the wife of the Prophet (peace be upon him), of adultery.

`A’ishah was so hurt when she heard the accusation that she was crying day and night while praying to Allah Almighty to reveal her proof of innocence from heaven. Allah revealed her innocence in the same context of the above verse, by saying what means:

*{Lo! they who spread the slander are a gang among you. Deem it not a bad thing for you; nay, it is good for you. Unto every man of them (will be paid) that which he hath earned of the sin; and as for him among them who had the greater share therein, his will be an awful doom. Why did not the believers, men and women, when ye heard it, think good of their own folk, and say: It is a manifest untruth? Why did they not produce four witnesses? Since they produce not witnesses, they verily are liars in the sight of Allah. Had it not been for the grace of Allah and His mercy unto you in the world and the Hereafter an awful doom had overtaken you for that whereof ye murmured.}* (An-Nur 24:11-14)

Then, Allah Almighty blamed some of the believers for transferring the rumor around, without evidence. He asked them not to repeat this act ever, if they are true believers. The Qur’an says what means:

*{When ye welcomed it with your tongues, and uttered with your mouths that whereof ye had no knowledge, ye counted it a trifle. In the sight of Allah it is very great. Wherefor, when ye heard it, said ye not: It is not for us to speak of this. Glory be to Thee [O Allah]! This is awful calumny. Allah admonisheth you that ye repeat not the like thereof ever, if ye are [in truth] believers.}* (An-Nur 15-17)

Therefore, no woman (or man for that matter) should be accused of adultery or fornication unless there are four witnesses who have seen the act itself. In other words, for somebody to make this kind of accusation, the crime has to be done obviously in public. But even if one, two, or three people see such a thing, they have no right to accuse the person in public. Their duty, in this case, is to advise the persons involved in private and not to scandalize them.

The only exception from the above rule is a husband accusing his wife of adultery, while there are no other witnesses. In this case, Allah Almighty says what means:

*{As for those who accuse their wives but have no witnesses except themselves; let the testimony of one of them be four testimonies, [swearing] by Allah that he is of those who speak the truth; And yet a fifth, invoking the curse of Allah on him if he is of those who lie.}* (An-Nur 24:6-7)

But in this case, if the woman bears witness that he is lying, her testimony annuls (in the legal sense) his testimony. The Qur’anic verses continue saying what means:

*{And it shall avert the punishment from her if she bear witness before Allah four times that the thing he saith is indeed false, And a fifth [time] that the wrath of Allah be upon her if he speaketh truth.}* (An-Nur 24:8-9)

This, in fact, shows how Islam protects a woman’s honor, even if her husband is bad enough to try to accuse her falsely; Islam gives her the privilege of actually annulling his testimony.

Then, also according to the verses above, those who accuse chaste women of such acts and do not bring witnesses are supposed to be lashed and their testimony rejected ever after.

How to protect yourself from that? I pray that you are not tested with this kind of disaster, and if you are, I ask Allah to find you a way out that proves your innocence. As mentioned above, Lady `A’ishah herself could not protect herself from these accusations and they almost ruined her own marriage.

But if there is an authority (Islamic or otherwise), where you could accuse these people who accused you of defamation, then you could do that and you have all legal rights over them.

May Allah guide us all.

Thank you and please keep in touch.

Salam.

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